Thursday, October 09, 2008

Friendships

It warms my heart to watch this precious friendship develop. Two Peas in a Pod. The perfect friendship.

Wednesday, October 08, 2008

To Share or Not To Share

Avery's conversations over the topic have been something like this throughout the past week...

"mommy, its not fun to share. You say its fun, but its more fun to not share."
"I don't like to share. I want to just keep things for myself."
"Sharing is too hard. Can't she just watch me play with my things?"

Pretty valid questions and pretty truthful as well. Life probably does seem like it would be more fun to hoard everything to yourself. But how do you explain to a 2 year old the falseness of that thinking?

I attempted yesterday. We started the day in conversation about one of our family friends who had had a baby last month. We talked about what we could "share" with them to help them because new babies were hard work, and Mrs. Ellie and Mr. Josh were probably very tired. Avery thought about sharing her dolls, but I suggested how about we share our food. So we all went to the grocery store, and she helped me shop for stuff to make dinner for them. She then helped me cook and put everything together all the while we were talking about how when we love others like God tells us to love them, we need to share with them.
We dropped off dinner, and I was pretty confident that Avery was starting to understand the concept that loving others requires us to share and show kindness. She even stated, "babies are hard mommy. I bet sharing our food with Mrs. Ellie made her happy." As I was just about to get excited about her understanding, her next sentence went like this.

"Elliana, don't you take that from me! I will not share my lip chap! MOOOOOOOMMMMY. I don't want to share my lip chap with Elliana!"

Oh well...we'll keep working on it. =) I guess it takes more than a day to convince a 2 year old, so I've deliberately spent the day doing group activities that promote sharing. We'll see if it works!

Tuesday, October 07, 2008

My Spiritual Journey...Part 1

Today I'm starting a series titled, My Spiritual Journey. It is going to become an ongoing series that I will update every Tuesday. Enjoy Part I of my journey!

The Lord first began pulling on my heart
my senior year of high school. Oh, I had been to church my whole life and had accepted Christ as a young child, but was definitely dissatisfied with what I found in the church. So I pursued other things. My senior year, the Lord started to make me dissatisfied with those other things and so began my curiosity about what Christ might offer that was different than what I had experienced in the past. My dissatisfaction with my current life grew to a point where I just needed to get away from everyone I knew and find God.

I've always been independent natured, so I signed up for the first mission trip I could find that took me far away (England) and was not associated with anyone that I knew. Throughout the trip, I began to be exposed to living in the kingdom of God. Not just doing things to make you spiritual, but actually living in a way where you were just participating in what God was doing. I was living "with God" and participating in what He was doing. I was reading the scriptures as a way to change myself and become more Christlike and not because that is what a Christian does. I was seeing the world through God's eyes, and it finally clicked that living this way must be what the abundant life is all about.

Then I went back to reality and started my first year of college. I attended a small Christian college because I thought that would be the best controlled atmosphere where I could get grounded in Christ. Unfortunately, that's not what happened. My struggle was different this time though. It wasn't a struggle whether to live for Christ or not. It was a struggle about what it meant to live for Christ. Throughout the summer, I just was a part of the kingdom of God. I didn't do anything to earn it. I didn't do anything to prove to anyone that I was a part of it. I just was and my relationship with the Lord became who I was. At college it was different. What I did came to symbolize what "type" of Christian I was. Was I a half-hearted one because I only went to church and not to Sunday school? Was I not completely sold out because I didn't volunteer in a youth group. Was I sure that my first priority was Christ if I didn't get up early to have my quiet time instead of waiting until later in the day when I could have privacy in my dorm room? Although these expectations were never spoken out loud, they were there in every group of people I came in contact with. I also began to question my ability to actually live in the Kingdom when all around me language and activities and attitudes were justified simply because we were all Christians. Was I being unreasonable and one of those stuff duffy old people because I just didn't feel right about certain things? I wasn't spiritually mature enough to handle the conflicts of life yet and so started to feel suffocated and longed for the freedom of Christ that I experienced over the summer. What did I do? I signed up for the next mission trip I could in hopes of capturing that freedom in Christ again.

That next summer I spent 14 weeks overseas instead of the 8 I had spent the summer before. That summer, I searched after God and just begged Him to show me where to go to school and how to handle the school environment. I just wanted clarity on how to be His child in the midst of America. It seemed a lot easier to be a Christian in a foreign country where you weren't surrounded by Christians. At least to my spiritually immature mind it did.

When I returned to the States, I knew the Lord was telling me to take some time and just be with Him, so I did. I took a semester off and just figured out where God wanted me. After visiting every Christian college in a 12 hour drive from my parent's house, I finally gave in and realized God did not want me at a Christian college. He knew what I didn't at the time. That being in a spiritual bubble was not where I was going to mature. I needed something else. So I finally transferred to University of Northern Iowa and my journey towards spiritual maturity began.
... (to be continued next Tuesday)

Monday, October 06, 2008

Avery's model pose

A sweet friend made the girls Christmas dresses. They are beautiful, and Brent and I couldn't wait to try them on the girls. When I asked Avery to pose for a picture in her dress, this is what I got.

What I want to know is, where did she learn the model pose? I'm pretty sure that's not how I pose for pictures, and I sure don't stand in front of the mirror doing that stance. I'm blaming it on Brent. I'll have to keep a closer eye on when and where he practices his model poses =)
Thanks Martha for the beautiful dresses!!!

Sunday, October 05, 2008

Weekend Away

For the last few weeks, God has been drawing my heart towards pursing various spiritual disciplines. God has been taking Brent on the same journey, and so we started studying Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster with our Team (Bible study). Then, Monday evening, Brent came home from work saying, "do you want to go to a Renovare conference in Houston this weekend?" Renovare was started by Richard Foster and focuses on the spiritual disciplines.

First reaction: ABSOLUTELY!

Second reaction: My parents were just here. I know they're tired and need a weekend to relax. I'm not going to be able to go. I'll have to stay here with the kids.

However, my parents did come. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. And Brent and I were able to go to Houston and experience this incredible conference that both challenged us and encouraged us. Over the next few weeks, I'll be blogging about what God revealed to me and is teaching me. Be sure to come back and check it all out =)

Wednesday, October 01, 2008

One of those...

Recap of the morning...

Cleaned up 2 throw ups, one blueberry disaster, and one case of diarrhea on the white carpet.

I knew watching 5 kids would catch up to me one day.

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Question of the day

So why is it that when my little one is at home and playing, she often forgets about going potty in the potty? Most of the time, I end up initiating the walk to the bathroom by asking her if she needs to go, and then she'll look at me with this look in her eyes that says, "oh yeah. I forgot. I do need to go potty." However, when I've almost finished all my grocery shopping, I have all the frozen and refrigerated foods in my cart, and I only have one more aisle to go down, we have to trudge to the front of the store because suddenly she has the best memory in the world and decides she needs to go potty.

What is it about public restrooms that attract potty trainers everywhere? Better yet, how can I get that same appeal in my own bathroom at home =)

2 are better than 1

Yes, Elliana is wearing panties outside of her pants. She is also wearing panties under her pants in case you were wondering.
The panties on the outside are her favorite, and when she found them while I was folding clothes, she sat down determined to get them on. I took pity on her and helped her get them on over her pants. I guess if 1 pair work good, than 2 pair work even better.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Weekend in Review

We always have fun with the grandparents so here is a little preview of what the weekend entailed...

A few more pictures of Let's Jump on Friday. Notice my dad's arm. He fell Friday morning while running and hurt himself pretty bad. He was bummed he couldn't run and jump with the girls as much as he wanted!

We tried to go to a pumpkin patch Saturday morning, but even though their website said they were open, they were closed. Bummer! So instead we went to a runners store and then ate lunch. Elliana crashed on the way to the pumpkin patch! This was after already taking a morning nap. She never sleeps in the car and never sleeps on us. I guess all the jumping the day before wore her out!

On the way home from lunch, we passed this great park so we just had to stop and play for a few minutes. The slide Avery and Brent are on is the weirdest thing. It looks like a long tongue and it has no sides to it. Needless to say, there were a couple accidents on that one before we decided that it was not made for a 2 year old =)After naps, Avery and Grandma painted some paint by numbers. You have to love Target's dollar aisle for fun crafts. And no visit from my parents would be complete without a visit to Babes. All you can eat fried chicken, creamed corn, mashed potatoes, and biscuits. Yum, Yum!This time Elliana got in on all the dancing though. She can dance a mean groove. Of course you have to end the evening with a little bike ride to work off all that fried chicken.

We had a blast with grandma and grandpa! Thanks for coming to visit.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

Family Fun Day

This Friday we went all out. Grandma and Grandpa came to visit so we took the whole fam to Let's Jump. You can come and go at this place as long as you keep your bracelet on, so we made a whole day of the jumping fun. I love places like this because its just as much fun for the adults as it is for the kiddos!!
Elliana was a bit unsure at first, but by the time we went back after naps, she was having a blast. Avery has always been our little daredevil. She loves this place.
I think we were all exhausted by the end of the day!

Friday, September 26, 2008

Goldilocks

Look what we found at the costume shop.Does she look the part or what. Have I mentioned before how obsessed Avery is with Goldilocks? This costume may not make it to Halloween because I'm pretty sure she'll wear it out before then, but she sure will have fun doing it!

Thursday, September 25, 2008

New Toys

Have I mentioned before how frugal I am? (Brent says cheap; I prefer frugal) But after 5 years of using a vacuum that didn't stand up and smelled a little bit like something was burning every time you used it, I let Brent talk me into buying a new vacuum. We got a $50 gift card to Conn's and so took advantage of the free money and put it towards a new vacuum. Brent couldn't wait to try out our new toy.

I'm hoping the newness doesn't wear off too soon. I kind of liked the whole house getting vacuumed by someone else.We've never had a vacuum without the bag. After finishing a couple rooms, it is disgusting! But I think the whole bagless vacuum is good motivation for me. Just seeing all the dust in my carpet has made me vacuum every day this week!

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Movie Night

Avery has been doing so well the past few days that Brent and I decided to organize a movie night for the evening. I know. A movie night in the middle of the week, but Brent and I decided long ago that there are no such things as weekends when you have little kids, so we might as well celebrate whenever we get a chance. Notice Avery's Dora PJs in anticipation of the upcoming Dora movie we were about to watch. Where's the popcorn, mom?" No movie is complete without popcorn and M&Ms. The best combination known to man.Avery ended the night by asking, "Can we have movie night again when I wake up?" I guess it was a success.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

That was then...

Elliana is 17 months old this week, and Avery will be 3 in a month! Time flies.

Here are the girls 17 months ago...

And here are the girls today. I pray they'll always be as close as they are right now. Our favorite quote is from one of their favorite books, Gossie and Gertie. We just change the names to fit our purpose =)

Avery and Elliana "are friends, best friends."

Monday, September 22, 2008

Favorite Game

This is my favorite game the girls play. They play it almost every time they are in the car.

Avery: "Elliana can you say pippow(pillow)?"
Elliana: "pippow"

Avery: "Elliana, can you say wikkers (whiskers)?"
Elliana: "Whikkers"

The game goes on and on like this. Brent and I laugh that Elliana doesn't stand a chance learning the correct pronunciation of anything! Its just funny to listen to Avery try to teach her words that Avery herself can't say yet.

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Friday Fun Day

Our Friday Fun day was a bit fragmented this week. We had a nail in our tire Friday morning, and because we only have 1 working car, Brent spent the morning at the tire shop getting it replaced. The afternoon was then spent at the doctor's office listening to our sweet new baby's heart beat. Its heart is beating at 165...any guesses on if its a boy or girl =)

So the few hours in between the tire and the doctor, we got to play with the girls as a family. It was beautiful outside so we loaded them and the stroller up and headed to Southlake Towncenter to enjoy the weather and the fun stores.We had fun walking around, playing with the train in Barnes and Nobles, and eating the best hamburgers ever at Kincaids. Avery was my Mexican food baby, Elliana was my Chinese food baby, and so far, this one looks like my American food baby because I just can't get enough good ol red meat these days! Avery was with us all day; she just didn't really feel like having her picture taken. She was too busy jumping and hopping and singing songs to slow down for a picture. Plus, we spent a good majority of the time in a book store. She was in heaven I think. For all the grandparents, she now has a list of about 20 books that she wants for her birthday. She requested that you all come with her to the store next time you're in town so she can show you all the ones she likes =) She's got her mommy's stubborness and her daddy's planning skills!

All in all, it was a great Friday. We got to hear our new addition's heart beat and we got to love on our kiddos. Can't beat that!

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Sisters

This is what being sisters is all about
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Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Dilemma being solved?

If any of you remember the post Dilemma, you know I've struggled with Avery's naps. Only a few days out of the week, but enough to affect her behavior and inconvenience the rest of us who like to make public appearances every now and again =)

So here were my steps to try and solve her little resistance to sleeping.

First: She was so tired, and I was sick of listening to her whine on the days she didn't sleep that I tried using my authority as her parent to force her to sleep. I gave her consequences, she lost a lot of privileges and special toys, and she experienced times of isolation from the rest of the family.
Result: She started rebelling every time I put her down for a nap, not just the 2 or 3 days a week that she had been. She also started screaming in her bed as opposed to laying there quietly like she had been doing. This eventually began affecting her at night and every night Brent and I would sit and listen to her scream for 45 minutes. All in all, the sternness brought out the Avery we hadn't seen since she was a baby!

Monday morning, after a weekend of Avery being isolated from the family because she had gotten so out of control, I sat at the kitchen table and pleaded with God to give me some direction. I knew she needed the sleep; her behavior was proof of that. But I didn't know how to stop this downward spiral we had gotten on because when Avery feels backed into a corner, she fights. And when she starts fighting, she'll fight to the death. I wonder where she got her stubbornness from? =) I also knew I couldn't allow her to scream in her bed for 2 hours during nap because I had 4 other kids who needed to sleep. But at the same time, it had been such a battle that I couldn't take her out of her room so she thought she had won because then we would have to fight the battle even longer. I was clueless about what to do! The Lord was very faithful to answer and give direction to me that Monday morning. This is what the result has been this week.

Happy and Sad faces. 3 out of 5 happy faces isn't bad when you're on the road to recovery =) After her first 3 smiley faces, she even earned gum from the video store! She needs 4 more to earn her rocking chair back.

Looking back, I wonder why I didn't think of it sooner. I know Avery is a fighter. I know Avery does not respond well when she feels pressure. I know the way to her heart is through rewards and positive reinforcement. I mean we have charts and rewards things all over the house. I guess the desire and the ease of authoritarian parenting is always going to be appealing though. Its much more time consuming to tailor your parenting to the individual heart of the child. I guess its one more time that the Lord is teaching me that I definitely don't have it all together as far as parenting goes!

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Favorite Passtime

Can you guess Avery's favorite activity?
We went to the mall to play and all she wanted to do was sit and read books.Boxes are great places to read, don't you think?
Goldilocks and the Three Bears is currently the favorite book around here.
If you ask Avery what her favorite toy is, she'll say books. If you ask her what she wants for her birthday, she says books (well books and light up shoes. But books usually are at the front of the line) If you ask her what she wants her birthday cake to look like, her eyes will light up and sparkle as she screams "lots and lots of books!" It will be interesting to see where this passion for books takes her.

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Hurricane???

It was a rainy day today because of Ike. The girls saw that it was going to rain all day and decided they needed to play in their "boats" in order to stay dry. They had a great time pretending to ride the waves from the storm in their boats.
Notice they both remembered their babies and food and blankets for the babies while they were in the boat. Surprisingly, their boats were good entertainment for most of the morning! Fun things can happen when you're stuck in the house in the rain =)During Elliana's morning nap, the rain stopped for a bit so we took Avery out to ride her bike. She decided that in order to get out of her boat, she was going to need to put a life jacket on. Good thinking right? Although the rain has been great, I'm not sure the "boats" will be all that exciting by tomorrow. Maybe Ike will have moved on by then?!!